The teenage years are a crucial time in a child's life. They are not children anymore, but they are also not adults. During this time the choices they make may have an effect on them for the rest of their lives. It is the parents' responsibility to guide their teenagers in the right direction by helping them make responsible choices and building their character to the point that when their teenagers move out of the house they are on the road to being responsible adults and have the tools they need to succeed in life.
There are a number of ways that parents can help teenagers build their character. One way is through part-time employment. Having a job provides many learning opportunities for teens.
* It teaches them what it takes to make a living, and that it is hard work to earn money to pay bills.
* They have the opportunity to learn to manage their own money and make choices of how they will spend it.
* If parents gives their teens the responsibility of paying for some of their own bills (e.g., car insurance, gas, clothing, cell phone, lunches out, etc.), then teens will realize they will only be able to have these things if they pay for them and will have to decide if it is worth it to them or not. Their priorities suddenly change when it is their money they are spending. They don't necessarily have to pay all their own bills, giving them a couple of expenses to take care of will teach them to pay their own way and make responsible choices with their money.
* Working is one way for teens to learn to get along with and work along side other people, a very crucial step in character development. How many adults do you know that can't get along with other people! Teens learn that you won't always like everyone you work with, but that it doesn't matter. You still do your job and have a good attitude about it, treating others as you wish to be treated.
* The process of looking for a job requires teenagers to take a good look at themselves and their abilities, helping them to see what kind of people they want to be and what they ultimately want to do with their lives.
* Job experience is the first step to building a successful resume. Any jobs a teen has will look good on college applications and be a stepping stone to future employment.
Of course, all this sounds great but in reality can be difficult to put into practice. The first job our daughter had she got laid off from because she and her boss could not come to agreement on the hours she would work. After she started working there he changed the hours he said she could work and it conflicted with other activities she had. It was very hard for her to feel like she was "fired" from her first job. We had to talk through a lot of the feelings she had towards her boss and some of the experiences she had at that job. But because she chose to honor her boss by showing him respect when he didn't necessarily deserve it, he gave her an excellent reference for her next job.
A couple of months later she did find another job that was much better than the first one, and she had many great learning experiences of working with others and learning to serve others even when it was very hard work.
Parents can't just throw their teens out into the workplace and expect everything will go great. Issues will arise that need to be worked through with the parents' help, but this is where the learning occurs, and character development begins!
Rachel Paxton is a freelance writer and mom of four. For more inspirational articles and tips for everyday living, visit her web sites at http://www.creativehomemaking.com and http://www.christian-parent.com


When I was pregnant, we knew that we had some... Read More
The purpose of this article is to address some of... Read More
Are you glad for the chance to put your child... Read More
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I... Read More
"My son won't go to bed at night without a... Read More
Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It... Read More
Being a single mother is no easy task. I know.... Read More
Every children in the world whishes to have toys and... Read More
Why are more people, especially parents not outraged?I call it... Read More
Having been a parent educator and a PBS consultant for... Read More
It is hard to believe that summer is coming to... Read More
Any parent whose baby has suffered from colic can tell... Read More
On a bright Sunday morning, a couple of weeks ago,... Read More
Those of you that have children know what an excursion... Read More
I am sure that this list can be jogged and... Read More
What do you mean average? Not good? Just doing good... Read More
Spare the rod, spoil the child!This philosophy's been around a... Read More
Sometimes a change of perspective can make a huge difference... Read More
It's the third time this week that Sam has complained... Read More
Think back to your own childhood. Chances are, some of... Read More
Adderall is a stimulant medication used in the treatment of... Read More
Young people generally want to fit in to their various... Read More
What exactly makes safety glasses different from regular glasses? There... Read More
If your child or teen has been diagnosed with Attention... Read More
MYTH: All teens have to rebel, and the teen years... Read More
I have been a single mom for almost 20 years.... Read More
What is Happening in the brain of children, teens, and... Read More
Children are notoriously bad at drinking enough liquids. They are... Read More
Last week in my newsletter, I mentioned that... Read More
Fall marks the beginning of many new things both for... Read More
Whenever parents discuss how to deal with bed wetting, the... Read More
Once upon a time there was a beautiful bird whose... Read More
When a child wets the bed they worry. Children tend... Read More
How would you like to have a closer relationship with... Read More
Q. My teenage son is turning 16 early next year... Read More
A number of scientific studies have shown the way a... Read More
Having a babysitter take care of your kids is sometimes... Read More
"There is nothing new under the sun," states Ecclesiastes 1:9.... Read More
There's a new trend for party entertainment. It seems as... Read More
Most of our Founding Fathers, including Ben Franklin, Sam Adams,... Read More
Thank you to all of our professional educators who dedicate... Read More
First there were Yuppies (Young Urban Professionals). Then came the... Read More
The least flexible character in all of the stories of... Read More
Frankly, as a single parent of young children, I struggled.... Read More
Age 1: Invite only family members and close friends only... Read More
I know this Mom. She homeschools her 5 children, plus... Read More
Many parenting books advise against eating out with young children.... Read More
"I could have helped you if I would have known,... Read More
Recently, a much-anticipated game of mini-golf with my children soon... Read More
An estimated five million scooters will be sold this year... Read More
Answering Service ResourceAnswering Service Resource |